I have been looking at the idea of loneliness and what it means for a person to struggle with being lonely. I talked last time about what I think the core of loneliness is. What I think, and what I have experienced, is that the essence of loneliness is isolation. Isolation from people and isolation from God. This concept implies that if we are lonely then it is a choice on our part. It is the person who is lonely that has chosen to isolate themselves from those around them and from God. I also stated last time that even though we isolate ourselves from others, the issue of isolating ourselves from God is the primary cause of our loneliness. If I am honest, I have been in a season of loneliness. I find I despise the moments that I am all alone. When I am home and there is no one to talk to, tell my story to, cry with or confide in I feel very empty and alone. In theory, I know that I have friends I can call or that God is with me. In theory, that is true but in practice I can still feel the sting of loneliness. I know and understand that I have to be comfortable with being alone but it is so hard. I have tried all of the religious recommendations of just praying more, reading my bible more, listening to Christian music but it doesn’t seem to help. What I have found helpful is opening up my heart and just crying out to God. God already knows what you are feeling but He wants you to draw close to Him and allow him to fill those broken and empty holes in your heart. I know that I have many wounds and heartbreaks that cause me to withdraw and isolate. But if I can just acknowledge the pain, be honest about it and bring it to Father then, and only then, can I begin to come out of the darkness of loneliness. It’s scary and hard because our tendencies are to avoid those things that bring us the greatest pain. But it is when we take that pain and open it up before God that we see loneliness withdraw and intimacy with God fill our hearts. God knows out hurt, He knows our pain and he doesn’t want us to isolate ourselves and hide with it. He longs for us to run into his arms and allow him to heal our hearts and fill the voids. So are you lonesome tonight? If you are, stop hiding and take your broken heart to Father. Let me know what you think,
Peace
Ralph
